Month: June 2016

My Thoughts on Orlando and Christian Responses

My heart goes out to all the families of those lost in the Orlando incident as well as those injured and their families. So many times we are prone to divide ourselves and see incidents such as this one as an attack on the black community, an attack on the Christian community and in this case an attack on the LGBT community rather than uniting and seeing it as an attack on humanity. I have LGBT friends, supposed I went with one to a gay club, there was a shooting and I got killed. I surely am not homosexual. And I highly doubt everyone there was. Also it was said that the shooter pledged allegiance to ISIS. As not only a non-Muslim, but as a Christian female, I can just as easily be targeted. That is why I agreed with the comments on the news that “We’re all Americans despite our beliefs etc” (I’m not American btw). That incident should prick the heart of every American.

The Christian community needs to really reach out at this time, not in acceptance of homosexuality, but in showing love and compassion towards the LGBT community. I am seeing some hateful,sinful, biblically inaccurate comments from those who profess to be Christian. I know some of these folks think they mean well but what they are doing is driving LGBT members away from the gospel of Christ. And this shows how Satan works, he mixes in the truth with a lie, because if I was not aware of what the Bible said not only about homosexuality but about sin in general I could’ve easily been one of those individuals. But tell me, how much I would have to hate you to believe all the things I do about God, paradise, eternal life etc and not share the gospel of Christ which gave me access to all these good things, with you? Christians are to preach the truth in love.

I am going to tell you this now. I don’t see my LGBT friends and family members as LGBT, but as humans. All humans are sinners. All humans have a sin nature and are bound to sinful natures. But the sins we specifically have desire towards are different for every person. You do not choose which desires you have. You choose whether or not you act upon those desires that you have. As human beings enslaved to sin, the choice of whether to act on these sinful desires or not can be very difficult. Sin is our nature. We are naturally inclined towards sin. Choosing righteousness is the real choice. Sin isn’t.

I am a sinner. You are a sinner. We are all sinners. Even if someone was not a homosexual, they would still be a sinner.They would still be accountable to God. Just like I am. And being only 18 years old and having been a Christian for almost a decade, I can easily see myself as a good person. I have not done that much that society considers bad but I don’t hold myself to only society’s ever-changing standards. I hold myself to God’s standards. And when I judge myself against God’s law I know how bad of a person I actually am.

The purpose of God’s law is not to save anybody or to make anyone righteous in the eyes of God by keeping His law. Sin is the transgression or the breaking of God’s law. The purpose of the law is to fully inform us of our sinful state before God and that the whole world may be guilty before God. After realizing how sinful we are, then we look to Jesus Christ to save us because we acknowledge we are sinners, we have broken God’s law and that the penalty for breaking God’s law is both physical and spiritual death.

Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

http://carm.org/what-gospel

The link above will direct you to a page which goes in depth on what is the gospel or good news of Christ.

To believe on Christ is to not merely believe in his existence. There is a misconception that you go to hell just because you don’t believe Jesus existed, not true. Hell or the lake of fire is the penalty for sin. Hell was originally created for the angels who had sinned against God because God is just and He must punish sin. Now each angel had the choice within himself whether to commit sin or not. Humans are born with a sin nature that is passed down all the way from Adam to our parents and to us. God had promised the coming of the Messiah in the garden of Eden soon after the sin of Adam and Eve. The purpose of Christ’s death on the cross was to be a substitute, the sacrificial Lamb of God, as God had stated in the Old Testament that only blood can atone for sin. So Christ being fully God (the Son) and fully man, made an infinite atonement for all of mankind. No man can atone for sin with his own blood because man is a finite being and sin is committed not only against his fellow finite neighbour but also against an infinite holy God. God took our sins and placed them upon Jesus Christ and poured out His wrath against sin on His only begotten Son. Jesus was the only man to walk the earth that kept every single commandment of God and was completely perfect in His ways. Jesus asked His disciples to preach the gospel to ALL nations so that EVERYONE can have forgiven of their sins. But you have to personally choose to trust in Christ and what He did on the cross for you. When you accept the gospel of Christ, the righteousness of Christ is imputed unto you, that means everything that Christ did on earth, all His good works and how He kept all the commandments of God is added to your record in heaven. This makes you righteousness in the eyes of God so God no longer sees you as sinner.

Ephesians 2:8-9 For by grace ye are saved through faith; and not that of yourselves: it is the gift of God: not of works, lest any man should boast.

 

THE TEMPLE OF GOD

MY BODY IS THE TEMPLE OF GOD
For the Christian, this is an accurate statement. Our body is the temple of God because upon becoming children of God through faith in Christ, the Holy Spirit dwells within us.
1 Cor 3:16
Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you?

It teaches us all things (John 14:26) and makes intercession for us with groanings that cannot be uttered (Romans 8:26). It also leads the Christian in obedience towards the Lord (Ezekiel 36:27)
Romans 8:9,14
9 But ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now if any man have not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his.
14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.

We often hear the statement “Our body is the temple of God” in regards to our eating habits and acts such as printing marks on our body. But the act that God asks us to refrain from because our bodies are his temple is not eating junk food, drinking alcohol or getting tattoos. Yes, these can be abstained from but we forget what the word of God says about a very popular act that the majority take part in…FORNICATION which can be summarized as all sex outside of marriage (premarital sex, adultery, homosexuality, incest etc)
1 Cor 6:18-20
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without (outside) the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?
For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.

God knows the dangers of sin and this is why he warns his children to flee!
Religion says: sex is GROSS
World says: sex is GOD
God says: sex is GIFT to be enjoyed in the context of marriage.

It is important for the child of God to remember that there is no sin that cannot be forgiven. We all fall short of the glory of God. But as a believer in Christ when we fall, God picks us back up, we can always confess our sins, ask for his forgiveness and the strength to resist sin’s temptations.
1 John 1:8-9
If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Loving You…In the Least Romantic Way Possible

So yesterday, I decided to send my friends a photo expressing my love for them, and one guy replied that telling him “I love you nonromantically” was a contradiction because love is romance to which I responded “Wow, you’re very amatonormative”. He also went on further to equate sex with love. I pointed him to Google to look up the definition of amatonormativity and this guy totally defends it by saying that all humans want love and I just view it differently because I’m religious.

I pointed out:

  • Sex and love are two different and separate things.
  • Most people tend to have sex for mere pleasure.
  • Some people engage in romantic relationships, not even for romance or love but because they desire sex and view the fulfillment of this desire most appropriate within a romantic relationship. These relationships should however be specifically labelled as “romantic-sexual” relationships.
  • Sexual desire and the desire to be loved are also two different things. All humans may desire love in general, but not all humans want romantic love or to “fall in love” and not all humans experience romantic attraction or romantic love (the existence of aromantics prove this). All humans do not desire sex (partnered sex to be more specific) either and the existence of asexuals further proves this point. However, sexual people may not desire sex for other reasons and whatever reasons they are, all are valid and we have no right to say they are broken and need fixing. That’s up to them.
  • Romance can exist without sex. (Main proof- romantic asexuals)
  • Sex can exist without romance. (Main proof-aromantic sexuals)

He still did not get my point because he kept arguing that I will always have a different perspective because I’m religious. Yes, I personally believe that sex is for marriage but I understand those points I made above and with him being someone who is sex-crazed and having constant casual sex I expected he would too. But that’s just another example of romantic-sexual relationship hierarchy in society. He is still chasing the “one”.

Meanwhile, I’ll be taking a nap. See you soon.6358903275513744801868687840_tumblr_nirm5gdkuC1trefrto1_500

JEHOVAH’S WILL FOR SEXUAL RELATIONS

1 Thes 4:2-5
For ye know what commandments we gave you by the Lord Jesus.
For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: that every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour;
Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God.

If you are a Christian and someone won’t honour your decision to keep God’s will in abstaining from sexual relations outside of marriage then you need to let that person go. God didn’t send them. Walking outside the will of God is a very dangerous thing. Blessings come as a result of obedience.
As children of God we should strive to grow and become more and more like Christ. Though the Spirit of God dwells in the believer and carries out various functions in our lives as Christians, the believer can quench the Holy Spirit through disobedience to God’s word and refusing to walk in his will. Every Christian needs to understand the battle between their flesh and its sinful desires and the Spirit within them. The flesh is the reason why believers, although saved, still struggle with sin. The flesh, being our old man, is enmity against God, it is not subject to the law of God and neither can be. So those that are in the flesh can never please God (Romans 8:7-8).
This is why Christians are commanded:
Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lusts of the flesh.
For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.
Gal 5:16-17
It continues on in Vs 18 to list the works of flesh, one of these works being fornication.

The Christian desires to follow God and obey him because upon believing in Christ, his spirit is regenerate, it is no longer contrary to God but his flesh still is. The level of obedience a Christian has towards God is determined by how much he chooses to walk in the Spirit and die to his flesh and its sinful desires daily.

I find then a law, that, when I would do good, evil is present with me. For I delight in the law of God after the inward man: but I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members.
O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from this body of death?
I thank God through Jesus Christ our Lord. So then with the mind I myself serve the law of God; but with the flesh the law of sin. (Romans 7:21-25)

Always remember that you can always receive God’s forgiveness for your sins and if you have not made the decision to become a believer in Christ and receive his salvation and grab hold of all the promises in God’s word for those that come to him you can always do so.

Behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation (2 Cor 6:2b)13012791_1327587063921966_3558208322356070102_n

Aromantics vs. Romantics: Nonromatic Love and Friendship

The Thinking Aro

Earlier this year, I wrote a post exploring the theory that aromantic and asexual people might be capable of a unique type of nonromantic/nonsexual love. Since then, I’ve realized that I made an error in thinking that asexuality  had anything to do with it. It’s become clear to me that sex and a person’s sexual orientation are totally irrelevant to what kind of friend they are, their relationship style, and their capacity for this very particular nonromantic/nonsexual love.

Romanticism is the only thing relevant.

If I wrote that post today, the question would be: “Are aromantics capable of a unique nonromantic (and nonsexual) love, simply because they don’t experience romantic attraction and feelings?”

I have no idea how I missed it for so long, but somehow, I was sort of operating under this view that being asexual automatically made a person predisposed to not only valuing and prioritizing friendship over…

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Lack of Romance Does Not Equate to Being Unloved

I’m very grateful for my friends and family. With all of the love, intimacy, support and physical affection I receive from you all I will never feel unloved, unworthy, lonely or miserable just because I don’t have a “boyfriend”. I could live my whole life being single and be even more fulfilled than people in romantic relationships because I have you.
But society has done a good job in making us believe that if no one is romantically interested in us or if we don’t have a romantic partner, that we are unloved or broken. It makes us believe that romantic love is superior to platonic love, that romantic relationships are greater than friendships and that only romantic relationships are worth investment and commitment. It leads us to limit love, physical intimacy, emotional intimacy, sensual touch (cuddling, kissing, hugging etc) and commitment to only romantic relationships. You see, these things are essential to humans. And because these things are deemed as inappropriate within friendships, we all feel the need to chase a romantic partner to have such things because society says you can only get these things from your romantic partner. Remove those amatonormative glasses from your eyes and start to experience real love. Focus on loving your friends and family and developing close, loving, intimate relationships with them. Stop chasing romance.

The Prioritization of Romantic Relationships Within Amatonormative Cultures

We live in a society where it is totally acceptable and expected for us to go long periods without speaking to our friends (notice I said ‘friend’, not acquaintance, which is a more casual superficial relationship) and brush it off as being “grown” and “busy” but when it comes to our romantic partners, we are expected to maintain steady, consistent contact and communication with these individuals and to invest a great deal of time in building intimacy, love etc no matter how busy we are. We are expected to sacrifice our friendships and familial relations at the drop of a hat to please our romantic partners. How often do you see a person leaving their hometown to follow their friend overseas because they don’t want to be without their friend? Rarely, but we do this for our romantic partners in order to maintain the relationship. Yes, I do acknowledge that we can have friends who we love dearly and go a certain amount of time without speaking with them but why don’t we view romantic relationships the same? Is it because society has this messed up idea that romantic relationships are worth more than friendships? We prioritize romance over friendship. Our romantic relationships are of a higher priority than our friendships because we all know when someone/something is a priority we make time for it no matter how busy we are. Simple! How often do you go without speaking to your “significant other” or someone you are romantically interested in? Because we are not romantically interested in our friends (let’s be honest, most people don’t have close, passionate, intimate friendships. Friends are just people they hang out with, share a few jokes and common interests with. They don’t have deep relationships with their friends, especially if they are of the gender which they are sexually and romantically attracted to) we don’t see it necessary to invest time in building an intimate, sensual, loving relationship with them because society says we only want to spend time with, touch and be emotionally close with someone out of romantic interest for them. It’s a society that tends to romanticize any emotionally intimate, physically affectionate or sensual, deep, meaningful friendship. It’s an amatonormative culture based on a romantic-sexual relationship hierarchy. Even if these close friendships are accepted, they are only viewed as appropriate during childhood/adolescence. Growing up means leaving friendships behind in pursuit of finding the “one” and any close friendship is viewed as having an “emotional affair” because we are only to be close with our romantic-sexual partner. A world where romance and love are not seen as equal, where sensuality and physical affection are not so closely linked with romance and sexuality is a more loving world for everyone.

The Shifting Meanings of Physical Intimacy and Touch

The Thinking Aro

I’ve pointed out many times before that most sexual people view most physical touch as exclusively sexual and/or romantic, regardless of whether the touching involves actual sex or genitalia, and how this is harmful, limiting, and frustrating for asexuals and anyone who wants nonsexual, nonromantic physical affection in their life. I’ve also mentioned the disparity between what the average sexual person assumes about asexuals and physicality, versus what asexuals actually feel and think about physicality, due to sexual people’s unawareness of nonsexual physical intimacy and touch. It’s pretty common for sexual people who know nothing about asexuality to assume that asexuals don’t want or like any physical intimacy or affection, beyond the casual friendly hug, and they make this assumption because from their perspective, even the nonsexual/nongenital acts on the spectrum of physical intimacy is ultimately sexual in nature or potentially sexual because they lead to sex and are only…

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