“Full Surrogacy Now”: How Our Longings For Love & Community In This World Point To Something Bigger

In her work ‘Full Surrogacy Now’, Sophie Lewis argues forcefully for a “feminism against families”. She considers the nuclear family, or at least the Western concept of it, to be directly opposed to establishing caring communities. Therefore, the nuclear family must be abolished so that we can move forward from our individualism and caring only for our biological family members within a specific framework, to caring for people in our communities who have no blood ties to us. She uses the term “non-nuclear kinships” to describe her vision.

Christ Fulfills Our Probation

Among some who profess Christianity, there’s the view that we are created upright or innocent as individuals then we choose to commit sin and become sinners. Therefore, everyone is born morally neutral, in right relationship to God and capable of choosing to sin or not to sin. From the starting point of innocence and the right relationship to God, each person then chooses to go astray by committing isolated acts of sin (through the temptation of Satan or their environment). This view impacts how we view salvation because if the cause of our condemnation is acts of sin, we could possibly redeem ourselves by committing acts of obedience. For the Christian, Christ’s death on the cross becomes merely a restoration of the innocence we had at the beginning of our lives and a second chance to live righteously to reconcile ourselves to God by our own obedience. Christ’s work is simply to “make up what we lack” and our salvation is ultimately the result of our obedience and cooperation with God.  Fortunately, that’s not the case and God’s word teaches us differently.

Every person is born into this world under the headship of Adam; he is our representative. We’re not under probation in our lives as individuals; Adam was under probation in the Garden of Eden as our representative. Therefore, when Adam sinned, we sinned. Whatever penalty that was the result of Adam’s disobedience is our penalty. We inherited a corrupt nature from Adam and all of our single acts of sin in our lives flow from a corrupt nature and a darkened mind. We sin because we are sinners by nature; we don’t become sinners because we commit acts of sin. Adam was the only man who ever became a sinner by committing a single act of sin (Romans 5:12-14)

“Let us borrow a simple illustration. God did not deal with mankind as with a field of corn, where each stalk stands upon its own individual root; but He dealt with it as with a tree, all the branches of which have one common root and trunk. If you strike with an axe at the root of a tree, the whole tree falls—not only the trunk but also the branches: all wither and die. So it was when Adam fell. God permitted Satan to lay the axe at the root of the tree, and when Adam fell, all his posterity fell with him. At one fatal stroke, Adam was severed from communion with his maker, and as the result “death passed upon all men.”- A.W. Pink

That’s why our only hope for salvation is for another representative to come and succeed where the first Adam had failed and not in our acts of obedience to God’s law. Our probation was already completed in the Garden. It’s too late for us to turn to the same covenant Adam violated to save ourselves from the wrath of God and be reconciled to Him (Romans 3:19-20). We have already received the sentence of condemnation and are simply awaiting its execution (John 3:18, Hebrews 9:27).

Who can deliver us from this death sentence? Jesus Christ, the second Adam, has (Romans 8:1). God the Son became incarnate, lived in perfect obedience to God’s law, fulfilling the covenant of works that the first Adam broke. Then he went to the cross and died, bearing the penalty of God’s wrath. He lived to provide us with the perfect righteousness we owed to God and he died to bear the penalty we owed to God for our disobedience and violation of His covenant. We are reconciled by repenting of our sins, turning our trust away from ourselves and our imperfect works and trusting in Christ as our Substitute. We are united to Christ in His life, death and resurrection and adopted as God’s sons (Romans 6:5-11, Ephesians 1:5, John 1:12).  He is the mediator of the new covenant, the covenant of grace.

“Finally, let it be pointed out that the sinner’s salvation is made to depend upon the same principle. Beware, my reader, of quarrelling with the justice of this law of representation. This principle wrecked us, and this principle alone can rescue us. The disobedience of the first Adam was the judicial ground of our condemnation; the obedience of the last Adam is the legal ground on which God alone can justify the sinner. The substitution of Christ in the place of His people, the imputation of their sins to Him and of His righteousness to them, is the cardinal fact of the gospel. But the principle of being saved by what another has done is only possible on the ground that we are lost through what another did. The two stand or fall together. If there had been no covenant of works there could have been no death in Adam, there could have been no life in Christ.”- A.W. Pink

Repent and believe this gospel.

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Faith is the empty hand which takes hold of Christ and His benefits.

Leaving It All Behind for Love

I read Rachel Gilson’s “I Left Same-Sex Romance for Love” and remembered all the things I left for love…the idols I struck down and the sin I have to put to death daily because I love God and my neighbour. It continues to be a daily struggle to die to myself but my Saviour is worthy.
All of us are born broken sexually, regardless of our sexual orientation. The same sinful, corrupt God-hating nature which is responsible for homosexual desires and actions is responsible for my own sinful attractions and sexual sin as a heterosexual woman. The only reason that I’m not lusting after a man at this very moment, viewing porn and/or engaging in intercourse with someone that I am not married to is because of who I am in Christ. God’s words say that those who are in Christ are a new creation, the old has passed away. Salvation involves being given a new nature which loves God and hates sin, a new nature which causes us to desire to turn from our sin and lead lives which are pleasing to God. This is also called being born again and is required for us to even place our faith in Christ. When we are converted, the Holy Spirit now dwells within us, comforts us, teaches us and actually enables us to live righteously and to put to death our sin. One of the reasons for God saving us is that we would become servants of righteousness and be free from the power of sin so that we may no longer walk therein. It is by the power of the Holy Spirit in me and God working in me to glorify Himself that I am able to turn from my sin, including my sexual sin, and turn to righteousness. It is by His word renewing my mind and the new nature He has given me that I am able to love His law, including His commandments and teachings about sexuality, find joy in them instead of burden etc. I now understand that sex is a gift to be expressed in marriage between one man and one woman for life, that marriage is an institution of God and a reflection of Christ and the Church who is His Bride. I still sin sexually but I am reminded that there is now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, because of His sacrifice I am able to confess my sin to God and repent of it, knowing that Christ already bore the penalty for my sin and credits me with His perfect righteousness. This is good news for those struggling with sexual sin. Sin will destroy you but the gospel proclaims that there is freedom in Christ.

 

 

 

The Ultimate Religion of Works

Secular humanism is the ultimate religion of works and that is why there is hardly any room for grace and forgiveness in the hearts of its adherents. There are plenty of secular humanists sitting in the church pews every Sunday as well, they profess Christianity but if you actually study the Bible you would recognize them through their anti-Christian worldview.

Whether the secular humanist professes to believe in another organized religion, they’re an atheist/agnostic or a moral relativist, all secular humanists have a code of conduct which is absolute. They believe these rules will objectively improve society and have a high probability of ushering in a utopia. Therefore, all human beings must obey these laws in order for us to evolve and have an existence where there is no suffering, just love and peace.

If we show grace and forgiveness to those who break these rules, we further decrease our chances of achieving this goal since individuals will not strive to keep the rules if they know they can simply be forgiven when they violate them. Grace and forgiveness are seen as a hindrance to improvement. Why should ‘white people’ keep the rules of secular humanism in regards to race relations and racial minorities if when they break them they get grace and forgiveness from family members and what we would consider an unjust judicial penalty?

You must understand how secular humanists think then you would understand their reactions to disobedience. The concept of grace and forgiveness is also warped in these individuals’ mind since biblically these things actually lead to improvement. The grace and forgiveness we receive from God actually causes us to lead holy and obedient lives, loving God and our neighbours and pursuing justice. Christians know that the only way to promote love and peace in a society is to fill it with worshippers of Yahweh and that’s why we emphasize the preaching of the gospel. That is why we pray for the Holy Spirit to do His work in giving men a new nature that they should see Christ and believe in Him. Once fallen man remains in his natural state, dead in trespasses and sin, there can be no real improvement to speak of. Man needs to be made new and then the Holy Spirit will work in him to affect obedience to God’s law, not obedience to the subjective laws of the secular humanist which promise peace but can’t deliver.

The Secularization of School Systems in Barbados

N.B. Links are inserted throughout the post that can be opened in a new tab. These are important as they aid in one’s understanding of the topic and related themes.

“Cut out the religious mumbo jumbo!”- Political Scientist Dr. Tennyson Joseph

In the  article posted by Barbados Today, we were exposed to Dr. Joseph’s belief that “a universally accepted secular curriculum would eradicate any conflicts which may exist for non-Christian members of the island’s increasingly diverse society.” Therefore, he proposed an end to “Christian” teaching in schools. However, he still held homeschool to be an option for those with different beliefs.

I interviewed a few people to gather their views on his position. An agnostic stated that there should be secular schools but also religious schools which cater to children from households of specific religions. In secular schools, all religions can be together without for example, a Muslim child having to be in a Christian assembly. An atheist was also of similar opinion, stating that while he thought it a fine idea to remove religion from schools it would only be legitimate if it was replaced by the teaching of morals, togetherness and unity. However, many Christians believe removing “God” would lead to the depraved society. I stated my position on a Facebook thread:

I don’t believe religion ever had a place in the educational system. An unregenerate society with “morals” is still in danger of hellfire. After all the religious education and prayers in the morning, we still have a society that needs to be preached the gospel of Christ. Claiming Christianity is part of the educational system is also damaging as well; as I am sure you have seen the mixed messages in school where we have “sermons” in the morning, then wukking up on stage in the evening and other worldly messages being preached at the same time. What view does this give the society about Christianity? How does this portray our Saviour? That He delights in the mixing of good and evil? That He is of the world? You have to admit that trying to place Christianity within the world system does more harm to its reputation

Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. ¹⁶For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. ¹⁷And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever. 1 John 2:15-17

In this the children of God are manifest, and the children of the devil: whosoever doeth not righteousness is not of God, neither he that loveth not his brother. ¹¹For this is the message that ye heard from the beginning, that we should love one another. ¹²Not as Cain, who was of that wicked one, and slew his brother. And wherefore slew he him? Because his own works were evil, and his brother’s righteous. ¹³Marvel not, my brethren, if the world hate you. 1 John 3:10-13

¹⁸If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you. ¹⁹If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you. ²⁰Remember the word that I said unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord. If they have persecuted me, they will also persecute you; if they have kept my saying, they will keep yours also. ²¹But all these things will they do unto you for my name’s sake, because they know not him that sent me.John 15:18-21

Last time I checked, Barbadian society was part of the world.

I begin with these well known verses among those in the church to show the irony of Christians desiring acceptance within the world and expecting a positive view of true Biblical Christianity within any society. The apparent religious atmosphere of this Caribbean nation has fooled many, both Christians and non-Christians, for too long.

From studying this verse in the Christian Bible, which I dearly believe to be the infallible  word of God, and my observance of society, I have come to the conclusion that the claim that Barbados is a Christian nation is quite erroneous. Unless Christians raise money to buy our own island, there will never be such thing as a Christian nation. When judged in line of scripture or by anyone well versed in Christian theology and philosophy, Barbadian society becomes a secular society, comprising of inconsistent deists and theists who are somewhat ignorant of religion, especially Christianity. Moral Therapeutic Deism is the true religion of Barbadian society. This belief system dominates our island and we falsely label it Christianity.  The “God” of Bajans is a deistic god.If the secularization of educational curriculum would rid this island of this religion I certainly approve of the idea. Atheism is highly tolerated more than deism and false Christianity in my thoughts. I prefer atheists who merely disbelieve Christianity than those who align themselves with it, spread heresy and result in false portrayals of Christianity. I’d take Richard Dawkins over Joel Osteen anyday.

This is not the God who thunders from the mountain, nor a God who will serve as judge. This undemanding deity is more interested in solving our problems and in making people happy. “In short, God is something like a combination Divine Butler and Cosmic Therapist: he is always on call, takes care of any problems that arise, professionally helps his people to feel better about themselves, and does not become too personally involved in the process.”

Obviously, Moralistic Therapeutic Deism is not an organized faith. This belief system has no denominational headquarters and no mailing address. Nevertheless, it has millions and millions of devotees across the United States and other advanced cultures, where subtle cultural shifts have produced a context in which belief in such an undemanding deity makes sense. Furthermore, this deity does not challenge the most basic self-centered assumptions of our postmodern age. Particularly when it comes to so-called “lifestyle” issues, this God is exceedingly tolerant and this religion is radically undemanding

Read more at http://www.christianpost.com/news/6266/#rLEv2eGy9kxsc7TI.99

Barbadians align themselves with Christianity and profess a belief in Jesus Christ because Christianity has been erroneously taught in the schools and even within our churches. Jesus is not who you think he is. He was not a passive, soft, nice guy. In fact, he was very confrontational and this society would hate him because he would not stand for our BS. Let’s make it clear, the scriptures testify of who Jesus is. The Gospels contained in the New Testament of the Christian tell us of his character, his ministry, his teachings etc. Any beliefs that oppose what the Christian Bible says about Jesus are false. The absence of these biblical writings does not mean that Christ absolutely ceases to exist, it just means that we would not know him, we would only know of him, so unless you have studied the scriptures you only know of Jesus (his existence), you don’t know him. Disbelief/ignorance of the Bible while claiming knowledge of how Jesus was, how he lived, his teachings etc leads to inconsistencies and errors. That is why many are deceived, they don’t read and study the scriptures. I know many of you claim a belief in Jesus yet you deny the authority of scriptures and declare the holy scriptures as being written by men. So you dismiss the Bible while stating “Oh I just believe in a god of love.” but how can you know this god is a god of love if he never revealed himself to mankind, allowing you to know of this characteristics, his laws for humanity etc. Not to mention that you borrow this characteristic of your deistic god from the God of Christianity which is revealed in the holy scriptures. Therefore you are an inconsistent deist and your belief system doesn’t even account for morality either. You create a god in your own image.

A Deist can’t assert anything about their god, since their god never revealed themselves to anyone. In Deism, there can be no objective morality, as there isn’t any objective moral standard revealed by their god. Some may argue that morality was placed in our hearts by this Deistic god, but they have no way of knowing if that’s actually the case, due to a lack of any sort of revelation. Deism has basically the same issues concerning morality (and other things) as Atheism. Most of the same arguments you can use against Atheism can be used against Deism.

Sorry I got carried away, as this post is mainly about stating my reason for approving of a fully secular curriculum in our school systems and why my fellow Christians should not be alarmed with this move. After all we are called to preach the gospel of Christ and make disciples, this was never the job of the state but the duty of the Christian church.

The reason that religion is so involved in our educational system is because the churches started the first schools, even offered free education to the slaves (to the dismay of the white planter class) as soon as they were freed. When studied in light of scripture a lot of these churches were actually not Christian, such as the Catholic Church, the Anglican church etc, but apparently once you say the name of Jesus people automatically classify you as Christian. No, Catholicism is not the mother of Christianity, Bible-believing Christians believe it to be the Whore of Babylon, it commanded the death of true Christians and other horrendous acts. Since Anglicanism is Catholicism’s slightly rebellious twin sister that its parents allowed the privilege of divorce, I do not approve of Anglicanism either. Even the churches that Barbados clings so dearly to fail the test of the holy scriptures. How can a society align itself with religions and concepts it is ignorant of just because of a few prayers at a morning assembly and some inspirational messages dressed up with a smear of “Christianity”. Religious education does not make one Christian nor does it make one an expert in Christian theology, granting one the capability to teach about Jehovah and the Christ.

Religion in schools is dead. And those Christians who claim this will create a less moral society do err because the purpose of Christianity is not to create a moral society, but to quicken unregenerate individuals who are dead in trespasses and sins. Good works and commandment keeping are a wretch to the unregenerate soul. They act as painkillers, deceiving the user to think they are getting better when in fact they are still sick, still dead in trespasses and sin. They make the user appear healthy while their insides are still plagued. Only being born again brings true healing to the soul, rather than trying to treat the outward signs of a sinful wicked heart, upon accepting the gospel of Christ, God gives the Christian a new heart, a new nature that hates sin and desires to do that which is pleasing to God.  Romans 8:1-14

Compare our society to that of America, where the curriculum is secular, there are no assemblies or prayers in  most schools and evolution is taught. You might argue that America is more depraved due to these factors but both societies are unregenerate, Barbados just uses religion and good works as a painkiller. We are like unto Pharisees, allowing our self-righteousness to fool us that we are at right standing with God. Therefore the removal of religion does not make a difference. Jehovah God is a holy, righteous God. He demands sinless perfection from us but we all have broken his laws, our sins separate us from our Creator and therefore we cannot be righteous in his eyes by our own works, that is why the vicarious atonement of Christ is vital to  salvation.  The gospel of Christ is good news. Christians cannot depend on the world to teach that which the scriptures speak of it hating. We have to share the truth of God’s word ourselves.We have to teach the righteousness and live lives that proclaim the glory of Christ. Love out neighbours as we love ourselves. Get drawn into God’s word and follow his will.

No more watered down wannabe sermons in our school auditoriums.

My Thoughts on Orlando and Christian Responses

My heart goes out to all the families of those lost in the Orlando incident as well as those injured and their families. So many times we are prone to divide ourselves and see incidents such as this one as an attack on the black community, an attack on the Christian community and in this case an attack on the LGBT community rather than uniting and seeing it as an attack on humanity. I have LGBT friends, supposed I went with one to a gay club, there was a shooting and I got killed. I surely am not homosexual. And I highly doubt everyone there was. Also it was said that the shooter pledged allegiance to ISIS. As not only a non-Muslim, but as a Christian female, I can just as easily be targeted. That is why I agreed with the comments on the news that “We’re all Americans despite our beliefs etc” (I’m not American btw). That incident should prick the heart of every American.

The Christian community needs to really reach out at this time, not in acceptance of homosexuality, but in showing love and compassion towards the LGBT community. I am seeing some hateful,sinful, biblically inaccurate comments from those who profess to be Christian. I know some of these folks think they mean well but what they are doing is driving LGBT members away from the gospel of Christ. And this shows how Satan works, he mixes in the truth with a lie, because if I was not aware of what the Bible said not only about homosexuality but about sin in general I could’ve easily been one of those individuals. But tell me, how much I would have to hate you to believe all the things I do about God, paradise, eternal life etc and not share the gospel of Christ which gave me access to all these good things, with you? Christians are to preach the truth in love.

I am going to tell you this now. I don’t see my LGBT friends and family members as LGBT, but as humans. All humans are sinners. All humans have a sin nature and are bound to sinful natures. But the sins we specifically have desire towards are different for every person. You do not choose which desires you have. You choose whether or not you act upon those desires that you have. As human beings enslaved to sin, the choice of whether to act on these sinful desires or not can be very difficult. Sin is our nature. We are naturally inclined towards sin. Choosing righteousness is the real choice. Sin isn’t.

I am a sinner. You are a sinner. We are all sinners. Even if someone was not a homosexual, they would still be a sinner.They would still be accountable to God. Just like I am. And being only 18 years old and having been a Christian for almost a decade, I can easily see myself as a good person. I have not done that much that society considers bad but I don’t hold myself to only society’s ever-changing standards. I hold myself to God’s standards. And when I judge myself against God’s law I know how bad of a person I actually am.

The purpose of God’s law is not to save anybody or to make anyone righteous in the eyes of God by keeping His law. Sin is the transgression or the breaking of God’s law. The purpose of the law is to fully inform us of our sinful state before God and that the whole world may be guilty before God. After realizing how sinful we are, then we look to Jesus Christ to save us because we acknowledge we are sinners, we have broken God’s law and that the penalty for breaking God’s law is both physical and spiritual death.

Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

http://carm.org/what-gospel

The link above will direct you to a page which goes in depth on what is the gospel or good news of Christ.

To believe on Christ is to not merely believe in his existence. There is a misconception that you go to hell just because you don’t believe Jesus existed, not true. Hell or the lake of fire is the penalty for sin. Hell was originally created for the angels who had sinned against God because God is just and He must punish sin. Now each angel had the choice within himself whether to commit sin or not. Humans are born with a sin nature that is passed down all the way from Adam to our parents and to us. God had promised the coming of the Messiah in the garden of Eden soon after the sin of Adam and Eve. The purpose of Christ’s death on the cross was to be a substitute, the sacrificial Lamb of God, as God had stated in the Old Testament that only blood can atone for sin. So Christ being fully God (the Son) and fully man, made an infinite atonement for all of mankind. No man can atone for sin with his own blood because man is a finite being and sin is committed not only against his fellow finite neighbour but also against an infinite holy God. God took our sins and placed them upon Jesus Christ and poured out His wrath against sin on His only begotten Son. Jesus was the only man to walk the earth that kept every single commandment of God and was completely perfect in His ways. Jesus asked His disciples to preach the gospel to ALL nations so that EVERYONE can have forgiven of their sins. But you have to personally choose to trust in Christ and what He did on the cross for you. When you accept the gospel of Christ, the righteousness of Christ is imputed unto you, that means everything that Christ did on earth, all His good works and how He kept all the commandments of God is added to your record in heaven. This makes you righteousness in the eyes of God so God no longer sees you as sinner.

Ephesians 2:8-9 For by grace ye are saved through faith; and not that of yourselves: it is the gift of God: not of works, lest any man should boast.

 

THE TEMPLE OF GOD

MY BODY IS THE TEMPLE OF GOD
For the Christian, this is an accurate statement. Our body is the temple of God because upon becoming children of God through faith in Christ, the Holy Spirit dwells within us.
1 Cor 3:16
Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you?

It teaches us all things (John 14:26) and makes intercession for us with groanings that cannot be uttered (Romans 8:26). It also leads the Christian in obedience towards the Lord (Ezekiel 36:27)
Romans 8:9,14
9 But ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now if any man have not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his.
14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.

We often hear the statement “Our body is the temple of God” in regards to our eating habits and acts such as printing marks on our body. But the act that God asks us to refrain from because our bodies are his temple is not eating junk food, drinking alcohol or getting tattoos. Yes, these can be abstained from but we forget what the word of God says about a very popular act that the majority take part in…FORNICATION which can be summarized as all sex outside of marriage (premarital sex, adultery, homosexuality, incest etc)
1 Cor 6:18-20
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without (outside) the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?
For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.

God knows the dangers of sin and this is why he warns his children to flee!
Religion says: sex is GROSS
World says: sex is GOD
God says: sex is GIFT to be enjoyed in the context of marriage.

It is important for the child of God to remember that there is no sin that cannot be forgiven. We all fall short of the glory of God. But as a believer in Christ when we fall, God picks us back up, we can always confess our sins, ask for his forgiveness and the strength to resist sin’s temptations.
1 John 1:8-9
If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

JEHOVAH’S WILL FOR SEXUAL RELATIONS

1 Thes 4:2-5
For ye know what commandments we gave you by the Lord Jesus.
For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: that every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour;
Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God.

If you are a Christian and someone won’t honour your decision to keep God’s will in abstaining from sexual relations outside of marriage then you need to let that person go. God didn’t send them. Walking outside the will of God is a very dangerous thing. Blessings come as a result of obedience.
As children of God we should strive to grow and become more and more like Christ. Though the Spirit of God dwells in the believer and carries out various functions in our lives as Christians, the believer can quench the Holy Spirit through disobedience to God’s word and refusing to walk in his will. Every Christian needs to understand the battle between their flesh and its sinful desires and the Spirit within them. The flesh is the reason why believers, although saved, still struggle with sin. The flesh, being our old man, is enmity against God, it is not subject to the law of God and neither can be. So those that are in the flesh can never please God (Romans 8:7-8).
This is why Christians are commanded:
Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lusts of the flesh.
For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.
Gal 5:16-17
It continues on in Vs 18 to list the works of flesh, one of these works being fornication.

The Christian desires to follow God and obey him because upon believing in Christ, his spirit is regenerate, it is no longer contrary to God but his flesh still is. The level of obedience a Christian has towards God is determined by how much he chooses to walk in the Spirit and die to his flesh and its sinful desires daily.

I find then a law, that, when I would do good, evil is present with me. For I delight in the law of God after the inward man: but I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members.
O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from this body of death?
I thank God through Jesus Christ our Lord. So then with the mind I myself serve the law of God; but with the flesh the law of sin. (Romans 7:21-25)

Always remember that you can always receive God’s forgiveness for your sins and if you have not made the decision to become a believer in Christ and receive his salvation and grab hold of all the promises in God’s word for those that come to him you can always do so.

Behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation (2 Cor 6:2b)