(Church Zombies, True Christians vs Fake Ones, Comparing apples to oranges.)
There is a threat so suttle in Churches across America, the undead sittin in seates occupying spaces and without a slightest beat of a heart or sign of life, yet they are there among us.
These are code blue flat line souls that are dressed up to look like the living but they are still dead, “dead in their sins and transgressions” according to Ephesians 2.
I used to be one myself and just sat in my decorated coffin adorned with flowers to make me look alive, but dead as a doornail. Some know all the right words to say, and all the prayers to pray, but yet still have yet to come out of the grave.
Jesus clearly taught that “Unless a man be born again he will not see the kingdom of God” John 3
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Lovely article from a woman who has never been in romantic love but acknowledges that you can be in love in many different ways and it doesn’t not have to meet society’s traditional model
I stay relatively out of touch with mainstream media, including TV, movies, and music, but recently, I heard about this upcoming reality TV show scheduled to air on TLC called “My Husband is Not Gay.” Apparently, it’s about Mormon families in which the husband acknowledges that he experiences sexual attraction to men, but has chosen to live in a heterosexual marriage because of his religious beliefs. A lot of people are upset about the show and want it cancelled, on the grounds that it presents negative messages to LGBQ people about queer sexuality and endorses the idea promoted in most Christian churches that homosexuality is a choice.
I’ve been thinking about writing a post on voluntary celibacy as a valid choice for sexual people to make, especially in the form of choosing a nonromantic + nonsexual primary relationship, ever since I discovered the blog A Queer Calling…
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Beautiful post about emotional attraction!
Attraction is a very tough subject to explore because it’s so heavily dependent on individual experiences. However, it’s also a subject that’s being brought up more and more as people are getting more in touch with who they are and what they want out of the people and world around them.
One of the biggest questions about aromantic asexuals, in particular, seems to be how we know when we’re in love with someone and how those feelings differ from simple friendship.
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Sometimes when I think about how long it took me to figure out my orientation and identity, I’m absolutely astounded. I was raised in a very conservative(not necessarily political, but highly religious/traditionalist) household and discovering these different aspects of myself has led to a curious kind of peace within myself.
One of the hardest realizations that I finally came to terms with was my aromantic identity. There’s seems to be an amazing amount of confusion about aromantics, in general, and aromantic asexuals, in particular.
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My aunt is in a long-term, emotionally exclusive, committed platonic partnership. She’s a heterosexual woman. Her platonic partner is a heterosexual man. They’ve been living together for over 10 years. They have never engaged in sexual activity.
Their relationship is a radical one for several reasons: it’s an example of cross-sex friendship that did not start in sexuality or include it later on, it’s an example of two sexual people in a primary nonsexual and nonromantic relationship, it’s an example of a platonic partnership that has enjoyed emotional exclusivity despite the fact both people in it are romantic and yet not romantically involved with each other (for all intents and purposes), it’s an example of a heterosexual man finding happiness in a nonsexual partnership (in general and with a woman), etc.
My aunt and her partner are now in their early 50s; they met in their early 40s. Thus, they’d…
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While waiting in a Starbucks over the weekend, I decided to peruse the New York Times Sunday paper, as I often do when I’ve got access to it. The NYT has a column called Modern Love, which is published in the Sunday edition paper and online. The column features stories about different kinds of relationships, submitted by readers from all over the country. This week’s essay, by Ephi Stempler, is titled “Platonic, Until Death Do Us Part,” and tells the story of Stempler’s intimate friendship with a woman named Marisa. Stempler is a gay man, and Marisa is a straight woman. Now in their early 40s, they met in their mid-20s, and their friendship has survived numerous failed romantic relationships in each of their lives. Marisa has two children. Stempler has never been married, and Marisa is divorced. The way their story ends is with Marisa asking Stempler…
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Earlier this year, I wrote a post exploring the theory that aromantic and asexual people might be capable of a unique type of nonromantic/nonsexual love. Since then, I’ve realized that I made an error in thinking that asexuality had anything to do with it. It’s become clear to me that sex and a person’s sexual orientation are totally irrelevant to what kind of friend they are, their relationship style, and their capacity for this very particular nonromantic/nonsexual love.
Romanticism is the only thing relevant.
If I wrote that post today, the question would be: “Are aromantics capable of a unique nonromantic (and nonsexual) love, simply because they don’t experience romantic attraction and feelings?”
I have no idea how I missed it for so long, but somehow, I was sort of operating under this view that being asexual automatically made a person predisposed to not only valuing and prioritizing friendship over…
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The following words are examples of sexualized language that pisses me off, and I want to bring them to your attention because I feel the way most people use these words is harmful to everybodyR…
Source: Sexualized Language